Self-soothing and regulation take time and effort, but here are some techniques that work for me:
Grounding - If possible, I do this by walking barefoot on the grass, but even sitting on the ground helps me.
Writing in my journal (which I always have with me). What I write rarely makes sense, but my stream of consciousness is only for me and it helps me ‘get out’ whatever big motions I have welling up inside me.
Colouring - whether it is doodling or scribbling in my journal, or using a colouring-in book, colours help me express myself and feel grounded.
Body scan (tuning in with each part of my body - toes to head)
Cuddling dogs (You’d be surprised how easy it is to find a dog to snuggle)
Dancing and singing (I have go-to ‘shifter’ songs on Spotify)
Heart-opening yoga poses (like Camel, Savasana)
Mindful belly breaths
I hope that these tips prove helpful to you on your journey.
Remember that your capacity to feel, and to feel deeply, is an incredible gift - it might just take a little practice learning how to surf the big waves.